tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post7358367515791065979..comments2024-03-07T08:59:32.598+05:30Comments on My Think Pad: An enigma...silverinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-15484330500707859452007-06-18T12:14:00.000+05:302007-06-18T12:14:00.000+05:30Dats just soo SAD .......Dats just soo SAD .......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-2147002397284722702007-03-14T15:01:00.000+05:302007-03-14T15:01:00.000+05:30JJ: Sure Sir, it will be Middle East from now on :...JJ: Sure Sir, it will be Middle East from now on :)<BR/><BR/>enigma: If she is thinking of her kids, then why is she getting pregnant? I am afraid she may get another one soon. But you raised a vital point that one needs family support to take the extreme step of divorce.<BR/><BR/>mellowdrama:Your first line makes sense. She had work experience and a job before she left for the Middle East. In silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-49012730245617197942007-03-14T14:50:00.000+05:302007-03-14T14:50:00.000+05:30Well, firstly a woman who has a child with an abus...Well, firstly a woman who has a child with an abusive husband is an idiot, a woman who goes on to have child after child...is a mascochist. Surely she could have taken contraception into her own hands. Or then again perhaps she felt kids are her only solace. What is the guarantee he doesn't abuse the kids in someway? With three kids, a woman who has no job prospects, who has scant work experienceMellowdramahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00754421063351870217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-49166853058707891642007-03-14T00:17:00.000+05:302007-03-14T00:17:00.000+05:30she might not be confident enuf to face the socie...she might not be confident enuf to face the society alone. she might be thinking abt her kids. Ans it is not easy t o stay alone being divorce din our society. Its not only teh comments they pass but there are other men who are tryin to take advantage of ur situation. they think u must be s** starved hence reday to get into bed with nay one. They think its all womens fault. It takes lotsa Enigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01580628008134339989noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-81514768273433863672007-03-12T03:08:00.000+05:302007-03-12T03:08:00.000+05:30I digress; but babes.... puhleaseee no more 'gulf'...I digress; but babes.... puhleaseee no more 'gulf'.. though its better than 'persia' it still kind of gets on the nerves of those of my ilk i.e. those born and brought up in the 'MIDDLE EAST'<BR/><BR/>rgds,<BR/><BR/>j.jAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-45417595917122824382007-03-04T21:04:00.000+05:302007-03-04T21:04:00.000+05:30Pradeep: What a coincidence that a techie coleague...Pradeep: What a coincidence that a techie coleague of mine was thrown out of her house for inadequate dowry and it took a lot of counselling from all of us for her to see reason and accept divorce!! You are right that matters of heart, emotions and relationships can't be generalised but none of that is involved here. This is just a brute who has a willing victim. She has our support but will she silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-74315441065816423052007-03-04T20:12:00.000+05:302007-03-04T20:12:00.000+05:30Oh, btw that "offense" bit was added just on chanc...Oh, btw that "offense" bit was added just on chance, since you mentioned they are catholics... I know some people who take these things directly on religion level. Better safe than sorry I said.<BR/><BR/>Don't mind and all that, what? :DAmeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252374817117509287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-48833122774670750172007-03-04T20:10:00.000+05:302007-03-04T20:10:00.000+05:30I knew there was no concept called divorce in Hind...I knew there was no concept called divorce in Hindu mythology, but wasn't aware of that incident. Thanks...<BR/><BR/>If you know that trying to change somebody is going to make a difference, then it's justifiable. But there should be a limit to trying, right? For "satyagraha" to work, the other person should have his value system well and correct.<BR/><BR/>Sticking to improper old habits is as Ameyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252374817117509287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-44559699236866443762007-03-04T11:22:00.000+05:302007-03-04T11:22:00.000+05:30Yes there is an explanation - she is insane and de...Yes there is an explanation - she is insane and dependant on that abuse. You can't do anything, and much as it hurts, we have to let people go down the path of destruction if they choose that path - just be around to help her pick up the pieces if she decides to ever reclaim her life.. she might, one day.. who knows!How do we knowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01763488475931737293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-2099846775092322742007-03-04T01:33:00.000+05:302007-03-04T01:33:00.000+05:30It looks like some coincidence. One of the girls I...It looks like some coincidence. One of the girls I know, after suffering a year of abuse and beatings (from a software techie hubby) -- all for more dowry -- finally decided to walk out yesterday.<BR/><BR/>I asked her why you didn't do it long before. No, she really hoped things will change, you don't get married to walk out just like that.., she said.<BR/><BR/>Now finally she has had enough and Pradeep Nairhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04873369124947878452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-75129898268997138202007-03-03T20:18:00.000+05:302007-03-03T20:18:00.000+05:30rune: We have tried our best to help her, but she ...rune: We have tried our best to help her, but she has to be ready for help in order for us to help her.<BR/><BR/>fleiger: This sati savitri mentality is drilled into women by all religions. Marriage is considered sacred and the girl told to stick with it and such girls are glorified. Hindu mythology abounds with such examples. Take the case of <A HREF="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kannagi" REL="silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-39111608392135759432007-03-03T18:53:00.000+05:302007-03-03T18:53:00.000+05:30No offense to christianity... but why should god b...No offense to christianity... but why should god be happy with you if you didn't help yourself? And even when it is entirely in your hands?Ameyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252374817117509287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-83669185848103535922007-03-03T17:25:00.000+05:302007-03-03T17:25:00.000+05:30I come across that a lot at home, the be all & end...I come across that a lot at home, the be all & end all of a woman's (and a man's) life is a marriage. it does take a lot of courage to stand up for oneself. i guess your cousin in denial, or she might be telling herself that he will change, or maybe she even thinks its her fault. in a way, you will have to wait for that straw that will break the camel's back. and silverine, maybe you could help Reshmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04116758055338829026noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-37311632770779355762007-03-02T20:46:00.000+05:302007-03-02T20:46:00.000+05:30toothless wonder:"The kind of person one wants to ...toothless wonder:"<I>The kind of person one wants to get married to maybe a tough one to answer, but it isn't half as tough to know the kind of person you WOULDN'T want to get married to.</I>" Wow, well said!! A simple truth but so many overlook this!<BR/><BR/>fleiger: I think she is enjoying the martyrdom feeling, thats the only explanation I can think of. Her folks are fanatic Xians who think silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-13126334666477643642007-03-02T17:13:00.000+05:302007-03-02T17:13:00.000+05:30your writings are so terribly addictive!!going thr...your writings are so terribly addictive!!<BR/><BR/>going thru the archives here after the other blog!!<BR/><BR/>keep writing!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-83596042817985199692007-03-02T09:54:00.000+05:302007-03-02T09:54:00.000+05:30Seriously... her parents should try and change her...Seriously... her parents should try and change her mind. It looks like she has enough support in your family if she wants. Why does she continue?Ameyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10252374817117509287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-82746282089300274312007-02-28T18:23:00.000+05:302007-02-28T18:23:00.000+05:30Like i said, Your wedding is not a spur-of-a-mome...Like i said, <BR/>Your wedding is not a spur-of-a-moment decission. I'm the kind that believes weddings are for life, and for the same reason,it would do one good if he/she gave it enough thought.<BR/>The kind of person one wants to get married to maybe a tough one to answer, but it isn't half as tough to know the kind of person you WOULDN'T want to get married to.<BR/>I hope your cousin finds ToOothlEss WOndeR!https://www.blogger.com/profile/03870478280394124292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-11343825611364992232007-02-27T19:40:00.000+05:302007-02-27T19:40:00.000+05:30neihal: Thats exactly what I feel..anger. Both are...neihal: Thats exactly what I feel..anger. Both are not thinking of the kids who are suffering seeing their mother beaten up :(<BR/><BR/>fleiger: Yes she has to work again and support that b*****d and not only that he has bought properties with her monies :( Man I am so angry!!!!!<BR/><BR/>abhishek: That was so peotically put but then the moon in this case is a beast!<BR/><BR/>jiby: <I>many of silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-83555080462438783122007-02-27T17:40:00.001+05:302007-02-27T17:40:00.001+05:30Addition: Some men are born morons, and the wise t...Addition: Some men are born morons, and the wise thing to do is to be sensible and not get married to them.ToOothlEss WOndeR!https://www.blogger.com/profile/03870478280394124292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-59550337891523422452007-02-27T17:37:00.000+05:302007-02-27T17:37:00.000+05:30I start painting a pretty world, and then someone ...I start painting a pretty world, and then someone tells me a story. <BR/>This is terrible, even considering that the scale could be grossly unbalanced. <BR/>But most girls walk into sorry stories. (i dont mean to be tagged an MCP in here, but that is the fact, most of the time). I have not been able to understand why it is that girls are taught to accomodate, and not collaborate, Especially when ToOothlEss WOndeR!https://www.blogger.com/profile/03870478280394124292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-37361181159461389892007-02-27T07:11:00.000+05:302007-02-27T07:11:00.000+05:30Hmm...it's too convenient to say she can't walk ou...Hmm...it's too convenient to say she can't walk out with 3 kids. Let's not forget the last 'would-have been' was murdered by this so called 'reformable' man. It's disgusting to even assume that such a person would be livable. If he can't comprehend what a cruel thing he has done at this stage, it is better to just wash hands. <BR/><BR/>-kajanAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-59010618507092143762007-02-27T02:56:00.000+05:302007-02-27T02:56:00.000+05:30Issue is not about Arranged marriages Vs Fixed mar...Issue is not about Arranged marriages Vs Fixed marriages... it is about people... and how they subdue their own free will or may be ...just may be...sometimes, the subjugation is deliberate, as a trade off for being acceptable in the ‘societal framework’.<BR/><BR/>Life is a precious thing to have… and one is always at perfect liberty to live it on one’s terms… Relationship should not be about AKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06694645855563092043noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-12309570936202046072007-02-26T22:35:00.000+05:302007-02-26T22:35:00.000+05:30U know, today I was talking to someone about this ...U know, today I was talking to someone about this topic, and then that person, highly educated and quite modern in her views, said that since in the Bible it says " Daivam kootiyojipichathu Manushyan verpirikathey irikate" it seldom turns out that, the spouse who breaks off a relationship, however bad it may have been, may never find true happiness. I was appalled to hear that but this are the quillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15613220530338545884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-4040518098480287592007-02-26T15:14:00.000+05:302007-02-26T15:14:00.000+05:30Life of an educated girl !!!what do we expect of t...<I>Life of an educated girl</I> !!!<BR/><BR/>what do we expect of the others!!!<BR/>I really dont understand what this girl is waiting for!! but I strongly believe that her parents are to be blamed for her suffering..People who are supposed to be her strength in hard times have left her to suffer...shame to such people.what good can they do for the society when their own blood is left to die!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-62308065651758408432007-02-26T15:05:00.000+05:302007-02-26T15:05:00.000+05:30'Arranged' marriages are just not right. I feel th...'Arranged' marriages are just not right. I feel this sort of trouble comes with the urge to 'settle down'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com