tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post111507753956926163..comments2024-03-07T08:59:32.598+05:30Comments on My Think Pad: The tenous familial bonds...silverinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-25757003484327381432008-02-23T03:10:00.000+05:302008-02-23T03:10:00.000+05:30Part of it can be explained by the kind of familie...Part of it can be explained by the kind of families the newcomers come from. I guess not all of us are lucky enough... Also like you said, it does take effort and most importantly time, to be a family in the truest sense. I must also admit, recreating the magic, is very very tough when parents and siblings have just drifted apart...Jive Talkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07628382072441603945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-21051288758364147862008-02-16T21:29:00.000+05:302008-02-16T21:29:00.000+05:30Nishanth: In my part of the world it is relations ...Nishanth: In my part of the world it is relations who drive people apart!<BR/><BR/>Al Ameen: Please read my comment to Ramesh to understand the post better :) <BR/><BR/>Apoorv: I disabled comment because these are your posts. Very well written blogs :)silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-37969073394538916232008-02-16T21:04:00.000+05:302008-02-16T21:04:00.000+05:30Thanks for dropping a comment and linking to my bl...Thanks for dropping a comment and linking to my blog. Though I was disappointed that you disabled comments on that post.<BR/><BR/>To answer the question you raised in your post, I'll answer with another post.<BR/><BR/>http://apoorvkhatreja.blogspot.com/2007/08/brainwash.html<BR/><BR/>Maybe it's time that people realise that kids aren't small and irritating dimwits anymore. Things are different, Apoorv Khatrejahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13134505982002756075noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-41187353727971256342008-02-16T18:48:00.000+05:302008-02-16T18:48:00.000+05:30But then Silverine we need to draw a line somewher...But then Silverine we need to draw a line somewhere. Do you visit all these uncles when you go to Kerala. If you do, then you deserve a visit from them :)<BR/><BR/>I was deputed onsite for a year and when i came back i paid a visit to all my family members.. But then they started expecting my visit everytime i go home from Bangalore. One Uncle complained that i stopped respecting him after Alameenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02637120538887252959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-91840767880020498272008-02-16T13:36:00.000+05:302008-02-16T13:36:00.000+05:30Hyea,I come from a joint family and(thnakfully) ha...Hyea,<BR/>I come from a joint family and(thnakfully) havn't experienced this. I would be surely depressed if something of this sort ever happened. sheeshhh..The problem is this growing ego...preference to stay alone..growing neutral family culture.. I often wonder how can people survive like this..WEIRDAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-44695515411254819562008-02-13T23:08:00.000+05:302008-02-13T23:08:00.000+05:30Jiby: Yours Dads concept of relations is exactly w...Jiby: Yours Dads concept of relations is exactly what we are following!! I guess there is hope for us yet :)silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-87275283354471078462008-02-12T23:45:00.000+05:302008-02-12T23:45:00.000+05:30yes, the tongue does the greatest evil. i sometime...yes, the tongue does the greatest evil. i sometimes find it very neccessary to give the older generation a class on speaking lesser...they take great pride in inculcating their grouses into the younger generation too. with families becoming smaller and living farther away, people are making an effort to keep the flock close...but bad apples cannot be wished away. <BR/><BR/>Last month my dad told Jibyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324353796946088382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-30890138128959314432008-02-12T12:32:00.000+05:302008-02-12T12:32:00.000+05:30Jiby: Tell me about it! Our people are the worst o...Jiby: Tell me about it! Our people are the worst offenders, they just don't know how to control their tongues. At one time I am told most mallu Xians, kept away from families to avoid unpleasantness. I see a change now. Lets hope for the best.<BR/><BR/>TW: lol!! It wud have been the situation in my family a decade ago. Now the elders have learnt to keep quite and let the youngsters take their ownsilverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-54204913090419943502008-02-12T11:42:00.000+05:302008-02-12T11:42:00.000+05:30Dhanush: Friends too? *ouch* that must hurt real b...Dhanush: Friends too? *ouch* that must hurt real bad :(<BR/><BR/>Anon:My family is even larger than what it is,like everybody else's. After all we all have relations. But all of them are not part of the family in the sense that they don't keep in touch or leash their tongues. Such relations don't make a family. A family is a group of relations who can co exists, is what I feel. And co existence silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-66717140428110331092008-02-12T10:07:00.000+05:302008-02-12T10:07:00.000+05:30Very True. Its a kind of feeling inside you when s...Very True. Its a kind of feeling inside you when somebody who is close to you don't visit you when they are here. I even feel it with friends who come from abroad and then come to bangalore for a day or two and then not even call me.Dhanush | ധനുഷ്https://www.blogger.com/profile/09661290502605302766noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-26386676265152655242008-02-12T09:53:00.000+05:302008-02-12T09:53:00.000+05:30Great post, though there are some contradictions w...Great post, though there are some contradictions with your earlier views. I had been a regular reader of both the blogs, had seen a partisan view of stereotyped suffering DLs. Wanted to post a comment objecting some of your arguments then, but refrained from doing so looking at the heroine worship kinda arguments (Mamma's boy, why did he get married etc for eg:). If a nuclear fissionable DL can Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-65971637003994485482008-02-12T06:08:00.000+05:302008-02-12T06:08:00.000+05:30You said it..."Life is short". Our people are very...You said it..."Life is short". Our people are very bad at analyzing their positions and the consequences of their actions...they have an innate knack for screwing up their own happiness. Envy and inferiority complexes...boy, haven't I not seen and heard quite a bit of that, and where it finally leads to!Jibyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07324353796946088382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-59927600176435177842008-02-11T14:11:00.000+05:302008-02-11T14:11:00.000+05:30I think I understand - I have a three month old ne...I think I understand - I have a three month old neice who doesn't have a name cause no one could find a name *yet* that appealed to the family : I am talking here only of the members of the representative committee - that is about 25 member strong.ToOothlEss WOndeR!https://www.blogger.com/profile/03870478280394124292noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-65506639891208609682008-02-11T13:37:00.000+05:302008-02-11T13:37:00.000+05:30Deepti: You are right. People don’t know what they...Deepti: You are right. People don’t know what they are missing by pissing off family members and keeping them away.<BR/><BR/>Shruti: Well my circumstances are a bit different. Most of us mallus have long extended families. And most of us don’t keep in touch with them or do so only for occasions. This is mostly due to the snoopy and interfering nature of relations :) My family on the other hand issilverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-82879011234925882062008-02-11T12:44:00.000+05:302008-02-11T12:44:00.000+05:30hmm ... I agree that the love and care of an exten...hmm ... I agree that the love and care of an extended family cant be valued or looked over but sometimes people have different priorities at different times in life . Its best to give your love to those whom you care for without having expectations in return because that is bound to hurt . It might not be possible for them to fit in meeting eevryone evrytime they come down in their short scheduleshrutihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11885811701058286599noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-1806493234094171142008-02-11T11:08:00.000+05:302008-02-11T11:08:00.000+05:30Being part of a real large family I can understand...Being part of a real large family I can understand your thoughts ... <BR/>Almost every weekend we have relatives dropping by ... lots of my friends find this different ... they really dont know what they are missing ...Deeptihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11945856816130429384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-22986367564191370332008-02-10T21:49:00.000+05:302008-02-10T21:49:00.000+05:30Mathew: Guess you know the feeling :)Dhanya: This ...Mathew: Guess you know the feeling :)<BR/><BR/>Dhanya: This usually happens with newcomers, especially those used to Nuclear families. Thankfully most adjust to their new extended family sooner or later, especially since we are a non intrusive family :)silverinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16474136215458639419noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-14062589801287895142008-02-09T22:23:00.000+05:302008-02-09T22:23:00.000+05:30I guess now a days people are becoming more narrow...I guess now a days people are becoming more narrow minded.. They are bothered only about their immediate family and don't want to think about the extended family.. But that way you loose a lot..Dhanyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08593715978123445004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23425148.post-35661118966606367292008-02-09T19:40:00.000+05:302008-02-09T19:40:00.000+05:30really..it really hurts..i think we discover about...really..it really hurts..i think we discover about such problems as we grow olders..as kids uncles/aunts/cousins are folks whom you would love to spend time with as much as possible..and it was unthinkable of them coming to the same town as ours and skippin by home..But times are changing..the concept of big fat happy family sounds like fairy tales..atleast you uncle bothered to come up to you..mathewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00860741232962357228noreply@blogger.com